(THE DECIPHER) A REMINDER: BE COMPASSIONATE

Heyaaa footers for today's content, I would like to do something different in FootieFic Hub. Basically it’s more like a reminder for all my readers because I love you all so much and I definitely wouldn’t want you guys through unpleasant moments in your life. But life is life right? We can’t expect what’s going to come towards us. About the new section I brought here is called “The Decipher”, it will be mainly filled with reminders, life lessons, and of sorts.  A short, impactful, brief, palpable message for anyone to read and contemplate. Hope you guys find it easy reading and comprehensible.

The first reminder is mainly about being kind in showing respect to others' opinions. These past few months, I’ve been reading a book entitled “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnege. In the chapter where I’m in right now, I found something that awakens me and even fascinates me.

Mr.Carnage expressed how human beings are frequently so impolite and calloused. Especially when it comes to telling other people that they are wrong or mistaken. If someone does something you think it is not acceptable and right in your eyes. You can’t just say bluntly that they are wrong, not in front of them directly. It will hurt their feelings. Don’t expect someone who you just put your hands on to or blame to believe in what you say and agree with you. They would never do that. Instead, they will resent you for having struck a direct blow at their intelligence. “Who are you to judge?” must be the first words thrown at you. Maybe yes you can convey what you thought was wrong about them but to alter their contention I think it won’t ever happen. 

This book gives me knowledge on how to deal with this kind of situation. As a communication science student who will be of course expected to be in a field of work that includes lots of communication, meetings, dealing with new people, agreement, and so on aligned with my major, this reminder would be really useful for my future journey. The things that you should know first is don’t ever tell someone what they are wrong for and about. Don’t say “You are wrong, I will prove you so”. It is tantamount to say “I’m smarter than you are”. That way will infuriate them more than you know. That attitude won’t make you look any smarter, won’t make you look cooler, and worse won’t make you make new connections, it gets you nothing. On the contrary, it sure does make you have nemesis at this point. 

If you want to make mistaken people realize that they are indeed wrong. Do it subtly, adroitly, in an eloquent, and elegant way until people can’t sense what you are trying to do. What you are trying to do is to prove your belief or statement discreetly. Don’t let anybody know it. This book told me to stop convincing people but instead start making them queeried their notions and opinions themselves.  For example, if you know a person making a wrong statement, regardless when they are literally wrong try with some nice approach like “Well, now, I thought otherwise but I may be wrong. I frequently am and if I’m mistaken feel free to correct me”. Dale said there’s magic in words like “I may be wrong and if I’m mistaken please correct me”. He reckons that nobody on earth will object to that saying.

What I can encapsulate here, you have to constraint yourself from judging people. People make mistakes, so do you guys, so am I. People can’t be right all the time and when they do make mistakes, please be kindly enough to not demean others, BE COMPASSIONATE💓. Let's try by starting to think what if it backfires you? before judging ANYONE, conceive yourself in their position. Always think of others’ feelings, even if they don't care enough about yours at least you know yourself won’t hurt anybody. That is the important thing. The more forethought you have the more it shows how life has shaped you to a better form.

It is not easy to obtain such wisdom and subtlety yet it can be trained. You can learn the tack, believe me. I’m not here writing and spreading this article to show that I have managed to behave that way. I haven’t. But I always have the longing to make this world a better place for everyone by spreading words and reminders like this. Many people have lost the fundamental of being genial and genuine, it’s the least thing I want to happen to all of you guys my readers. In fact, I don’t want you guys to forget how important and impactful your  selection of words are whenever you say something towards others. Together we hand in hand dispersing the good words around the world. Here’s to a peaceful world! Thank you guys for reading this message. I promise I’ll come with so many more related matters, life, and social problems. Don’t forget to always be compassionate! Cheers! See ya soon footers!

-KIMMY